Be Surprised: Wherever you are, whoever you are, whatever your illness

Last week marked Hospice Care Week – a national campaign raising awareness of hospice care and what it means to all of us in the community.

There are so many myths and misunderstandings about hospices. People worry that a hospice is a sad place, a place where people go to die, or that it is there as a last resort.

I have been privileged to know many people who have received hospice care. Most have been cared for by hospice staff at home, but some have been inpatients on our ward. People have been surprised by the warmth and happiness that has enveloped them. They have been surprised at the efforts to which hospice staff and volunteers will go to try and make the lives of patients and families as good as they can be in such difficult times.

Hospice care is about helping people live with illness and bereavement, helping them make the most of every day. It is about holding onto hope, not giving up hope. People can meet others in similar circumstances, or they can get counselling and advice to help them manage the challenges of serious illness and dying.

Last week I was talking to a man who said the hospice had made him stronger. When he was first diagnosed with a brain tumour he was worried about how he would cope, but counselling and coming to Orchard Day Centre had made all the difference helping him to find the strength to go through treatments and surgery.

His experience is a good example of what we do and why we do it: we care about people and their lives. You might be surprised at the level of warmth and, yes, even joy found in hospices. Above all, we recognise what it is to be human and that every moment of our lives is precious.

I believe the role hospices play in society is crucial in trying to make dying better, but we need to be able to make things better for more people. I would encourage anyone struggling to cope with dying, either themselves or with regard to a relative, to pick up the phone.

You don’t need to wait for a doctor or nurse to suggest it. Advice is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. If you are unsure, ring your local hospice. You never know, you might be surprised at how we can help.